Taking It Deeper


I can’t believe what she said
I can’t believe what he did
Oh, don’t they know it’s wrong
Don’t they know it’s wrong, yeah
Maybe there’s something I missed
How could they treat me like this
It’s wearing out my heart
The way they disregard, Oh
This is love, this is hate
We all have a choice to make
Oh, Father won’t You forgive them
They don’t know what they been doin’
Oh, Father, give me grace to forgive them
‘Cause I feel like the one losin’
There’s only the dead that can live
But still I wrestle with this
To lose the pain that’s mine
Seventy times seven times, Yeah
But Lord it doesn’t feel right
For me to turn a blind eye
Though I guess it’s not that much
When I think of what You’ve done, yeah
This is love, this is hate
We got a choice to make, say
Why do we think that hate’s gonna change their heart
We’re up in arms over wars, don’t need to be fought
Pride won’t let us lay weapons on the ground
We build the bridges up, but just to build ‘em down
Say, we think pains owed apologies and then it’ll stop
Truth be told it doesn’t matter if they’re sorry or not
Freedom comes when we surrender to the sound
Of mercy and Your grace
Father, send Your angels down


Forgiveness is an either/or from God.   It is not an “and.”   You can’t grip grace and unforgiveness at the same time, just like you can’t be married and playing the field at the same time.     If you have unforgiveness in your heart, it is going to affect your relationship with God, and it could ultimately tear you apart.

These thoughts were written in July, 2012.   At the time, Chick Fil-A was in the news because Dan Cathy, their President, took a stand for traditional marriage.   Many were planning to protest, and the battle lines between Christians and the culture were being engaged again.   This song details how we should treat those who would come against us - those who we would tend to not want to forgive.


  • In the Capital of Croatia you’ll find the “Museum of Broken Relationships”   (www.brokenships.com)
  • There’s an axe that smashed furniture, a garden gnome that was hurled into the windshield of a car,  all whole bunch of objects that are monuments to the anger that happens when one person breaks it off with another.
  • This song is what you need to hear before you get to that point.  


  • In Matthew 18, Peter asks Jesus how many times he should forgive those who have done wrong.   “Up to seven times?” He asks.
  • This is actually Peter trying to look good, because the Rabbis of the day taught that you should forgive up to three times.   Peter offered up a number that was more than twice the going rate!
  • Jesus’ answer astounded them.   He said “seventy-seven times”   (Some versions say 70 x 7).
  • The fact is - it was way more than the people of that day were taught.   So much so that in essence Jesus was saying:   “Hey bro, don’t even count - just always forgive.”


  • Unforgiveness is like having a tattoo on your heart.
  • When you don’t forgive, your heart has a mark, and you can’t hide it.   The mark will be seen in the grumbling you do behind the back of those you won’t forgive.
  • It’s not easy to remove a tattoo, nor is it easy to forgive.
  • To do so, you have to rely on someone else’s skill.
  • In the case of forgiveness, that would be Jesus, and focusing on the forgiveness He gave you on the cross.


  • In Matthew 18 Jesus told a story of a servant who owed a king 10,000 talents.   That’s like a gigabillion in today’s dollars.
  • The King had compassion on him and forgave the debt.
  • The servant then went out and ran into a dude who owed him a 100 denari - like $5000 dollars.
  • He wouldn't forgive him - he actually had him put in jail!
  • The servants all heard about it and had the unforgiving guy brought back into the King.
  • When the King saw that his forgiveness was not embraced, he cast Him out.
  • Jesus said that His Father would also do the same to those who didn’t forgive.
  • In essence Jesus is saying “If you don’t show grace, you don’t know grace.”

    Scripture References

    Colossians 3:13

    Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.


    Ephesians 4:32

    Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.


    Romans 12:19

    Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord.


    1 Thessalonians 5:15

    Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.


    Luke 6:28

    bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.


    Proverbs 24:17

    Do not gloat when your enemy falls; when he stumbles, do not let your heart rejoice.

    Your Own Experiences

    Unforgiveness can even be grumbling because someone seems to get all the breaks in life.   Maybe you can share a personal example of that and explain why, because of that, you need this song.


    If you want an extreme story of this song in action then Google “Corrie Ten Boom and the Prison Guard” and then share that story in your own words


    Tell a personal story of forgiveness, or take phone calls about how people forgave others.   You can make a block of programming using those calls, this song, and the song “Forgiveness” by Matthew West.

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