Taking It Deeper


It’s the hardest thing to give away
And the last thing on your mind today
It always goes to those who don’t deserve
It’s the opposite of how you feel
When they pain they caused is just too real
Takes everything you have to say the word
Forgiveness, forgiveness
It flies in the face of all your pride
It moves away the mad inside
It’s always angers own worst enemy
Even when the jury and the judge say you gotta right to hold a grudge
It’s the whisper in your ear saying set it free
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Show me how
To love the unlovable
Show me how
To reach the unreachable
Help me now
To do the impossible
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Help me now
To do the impossible
It’ll clear the bitterness away
It can even set a prisoner free
There is no end to what its power can do
So let it go and be amazed by what you see through eyes of grace
The prisoner that it really frees is you
Forgiveness, forgiveness
Oh, forgiveness, forgiveness
I want to finally set it free
Show me how
To see what Your mercy sees
Help me now
To give what You gave to me


Gandhi said: “The weak can never forgive.   Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”   This is ultimately a song about Jesus giving us the strength to do what we cannot do ourselves.    

So anything that "adds strength" can be considered when talking about this song.   Here are some examples:

  • Just like exercise gives us strength to lift heavy objects,   the example of Jesus’ forgiveness gives us strength to lift the emotional burdens others place on us.
  • Welding two pieces of metal together makes them stronger than they were separately.   In the same way, giving forgiveness to one who has wronged us gives us a stronger ability to deal with future hurts.
  • “A cord of three strands is not easily broken”   says Ecclesiastes 4:12.   When you add yourself, a counselor, and Jesus together, you find the strength to forgive.


  •  My dog taught me a lesson about forgiveness today.
  • She had made a mess on the floor, and she knew it.
  • So she came to me, walking slowly, with her head hanging low.
  • After I cleaned it up, I let her up in my lap and I let her know it was OK.
  • What she taught me was that there are so many times that I make mistakes, and so many times that I mess things up.
  • And yet God is always ready to hold me and tell me that it’s OK.
  • He forgives me so much.   How can I not forgive others?


  • The first line of the second verse says “it flies in the face of all your pride.”
  • It reminds me of a line in C.S. Lewis’ book “Mere Christianity” which says:
  • “A proud man is always looking down on things and people:   and, of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot see something that is above you.”
  • When we won’t forgive others, we are looking down on them, which makes it very difficult for us to look up and see how God wants to work in our lives.


  • Have you ever wanted to be irritated at someone, just because they were more successful at something?
  • It’s really a case of unforgiveness when we do that.
  • We’re holding a grudge against God for not making us like them.
  • And when we get hung up on how God hasn’t made us like another.
  • It makes it difficult for us to move forward into the person God wants us to be.


  • The chorus of this song is all about the “ables and ibles”
  • The unlovable, the unreachable, and the impossible.
  • If these “ables and ibles” are negatively impacting your heart today, be thankful that you know God.
  • Because His grace makes you “able” to move forward.


  • There was a younger sister who brought her new fiance home for the first time.
  • Of course, he had to go through the quizzing by the girl’s mother and sisters as to why he would make a good husband.
  • This guy was like 6 foot, 7 inches tall, and the girls were all in the lower 5 foot range.
  • His first answer as to why he’d be a good husband was:   “I can reach things.”
  • They ended up giving him permission to marry their sister!   :)
  • That story reminds me of this song, because we often let forgiveness remain out of our reach.
  • We often need someone else to help us get there.


  • Remember doing math problems?   It was always a good way to use your eraser.
  • However, no matter how hard you rubbed, you could never completely get rid of what you wrote.
  • (And didn’t you hate the crummy erasers that just smeared pencil lead all over?)
  • God has the most amazing eraser of them all, though.
  • And it has a big ol’ word written on it.   That word is “forgiveness.”
  • It doesn’t just erase the bad stuff you’ve done, it basically makes brand new paper where the mistake was.
  • And when you realize that forgiveness is a gift He gives you, you’ll get to a place where you can share it with those who have hurt you.


  • Did you know that God has both a pencil and eraser?
  • He writes commands upon our hearts, like Ephesians 4:32 which tells us to be kind and compassionate and forgiving to each other.
  • That verse also says that Christ forgives us.
  • His eraser erases our sin, and then His pencil writes forgiveness on our heart,   so that we can show that forgiveness to others.


  • My wife is great at making cards, and I always need her expertise whenever my boss’ birthday rolls around.
  • There are times we need others help to give a gift.
  • And that’s absolutely true when we need to give others the gift of forgiveness.


  • Have you ever been on a see saw with your young kids?
  • There is no way that they can push down hard enough to lift you up.
  • That’s an illustration of forgiveness.
  • When someone has done something horrible to us, we can’t lift the weight naturally to forgive them.
  • We need help to do it.
  • That help comes from God, who comes and sits on the see saw with us.
  • The strength that is demonstrated from His forgiveness of us ultimately helps us lift the burden of forgiveness toward others.


Forgiveness quotes:


Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

-Suzanne Sommers


Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.

-Mark Twain


Forgotten is forgiven.

-F. Scott Fitzgerald


To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.  

-Lewis B. Swedes

    Scripture References

    Ephesians 4:32

    Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.


    Luke 7:47

    "Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven–for she loved much. But he who has been forgiven little loves little.”


    2 Corinthians 5:18-19

    All this is from God,   who reconciled us to himself through Christ   and gave us the ministry of reconciliation.


    Matthew 6:14-15

    For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.


    Galatians 6:1-2

    Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual   should restore   him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.   Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

    Your Own Experiences

    Admit to your listeners about how easy it is to be bitter about things, and how glad you are that you have a song like this to get through the struggle.


    Talk about a person who helped you see the benefits of forgiveness.   Mention that forgiveness usually doesn’t occur naturally.   It often takes someone else to show you the way.


    Talk about an area of your life where you had to forgive yourself, and how God brought that to you attention.

3 Responses so far.

  1. KSBJ says:

    Get a jump start on your Christmas shopping without setting foot in a mall…it’s called forgiveness, and it truly is the gift that keeps on giving.

  2. KSBJ says:

    A listener called in and shared about a sign he’d seen – “Those who look up to God rarely look down on people.”

  3. They say, “forgive and forget.” I don’t know if forgetting is possible in some cases. But I do know forgetting is impossible without forgiving.

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